In an article published on YourTango last August, a young woman shares what she’s learned from having gotten hitched at the tender age of 20.
One hundred and fifty years ago, getting married at 20 was probably the norm for women but, today, it’s considered quite young. In fact, someone that age still can’t legally partake in alcohol consumption.
Per PRB, the median age at first marriage for women was 28 years in 2015-2019 while the median age at first marriage for men was 29.9 years in the same time frame.
Does a woman (or man) know what they’re doing at 20? Do they really know what they want?
And what if a 20-year-old woman marries an unestablished man in the same age range? Lord help her. Young Romeo could turn out to be a legitimate nightmare well before both of them hit 25.
A man in his early 20s is usually still a little immature and doesn’t have much, if any, real-world experience.
Is he ready to be a good provider? Is he ready to launch a solid career? Is he ready to be a responsible and caring husband and father, now, and in the long run? A man who is at least in his mid to late 20s certainly gives better clues as it relates to answering the above questions.
I’ve known women who have gotten married between the ages of 19 and 22 and deeply regretted it less than five years later. Sometimes, the man wasn’t who the woman thought he was while at other times they simply grew apart after reaching true adulthood.
In the article 10 Things I Seriously Wish I Knew Before I Got Married At Age 20, the writer does something very interesting by elaborating on the surprises of matrimony while seemingly not regretting her decision.
No, she’s not in one of those disaster situations but underscores those fairytale moments we see in commercials are far exceeded by the day-to-day minutia.
Things change when you tie the knot, especially if you’re just 20. People tend to view you differently and their expectations of you change despite your age. Moreover, the relationship dynamics with friends – even the close ones – can take some odd turns.
And, yes, despite being in a healthy marriage, the writer admits there are fleeting moments when she casually wishes she was single again.
10 Things I Seriously Wish I Knew Before I Got Married At Age 20